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Dear MEL Topic Readers,
Why self-compassion – not self-esteem – leads to success
Having entered the third year of the coronavirus pandemic, we’re facing continuing challenges, requirements, and stresses that don’t seem to end anytime soon. Even though we may not be able to eliminate these stresses, we may be able to find ways to be more resilient to them. One way is to keep praising your success, which is often described as self-esteem. But it is contingent on success, which may not be consistent. Another way is to forgive out mistakes or errors, called self-compassion. In fact, criticizing yourself for failures or mistakes could make you look hard on yourself to keep the standards or achieve your goals. But it might cause too much pressure on yourself and make you unhappy. Instead, accepting errors or mistakes without criticism seems to make you go through difficult times less painfully but more positively. This concept of self-compassion can be attained by focusing on feelings of forgiveness and warmth to yourself and others, according to a researcher. Indeed, by accepting and allowing mistakes, you’ll feel less stress or pressure, and take challenges and difficulties more positively. In other words, you want to be nice and compassionate to yourself, like you are to others.
Enjoy reading the article and learn about what and how self-compassion helps you in difficult times.
MEL School 三鷹